The thing about illness is, it just hits you.
It’s unpredictable, it follows no rules (not always anyway, despite our best work as clinicians and scientists, biology is unique and will play its own role in each of us), and it hits you when you least expect it.
It’s damn frustrating, because our daily lives are built around routine, around schedules for work and appointments and goals and personal life. But illness doesn’t follow a schedule. The world doesn’t sit still while you suffer.
So what can you do?
You try to pace yourself, and take time off.
You limit your commitments; you rest; you take a break.
Then, when you feel better, you return to work, to your startups, to your passions - to your life as usual - and BAM! It hits you again. Or some other calamity related to the illness.
Whether it’s an illness hitting you, or your loved one; your life is disrupted again.
And think about the emotional trauma of impending bereavement; grief; or other foreshadowing..
Imagine this happening again, and again, and again, and again…..
This is reality for millions of people around the world.
And if it’s not cancer, child-related, or pregnancy-related, often the people affected are suffering in SILENCE- the kind where no one understands what’s going on with you.
How on earth can you live #lifeasusual while fighting something that’s bigger than you, that has no rule book, that pays no heed to your wishes, that doesn’t reward you for good rest and nutrition and self care?
You can recognise the things you can control.
All you can control is right in this moment.
Being mindful of your surroundings; of your circumstances; of the thoughts, fears and hopes in your head.
You can control your breathing; whether you take a step forward or back (literally); whether you choose to sit in stillness, or with a book and pen, or with headphones on the train, or holding your loved one’s hand.
You can accept that things aren’t right for now, and possibly won’t be ever again, instead of trying to hide those feelings; and that makes it easier to take your next step.
It’s tough while running the startups in your life, tough trying to keep all the wheels in motion while trying to be there for yourself and others who are most important to you.
Allow yourself to not listen to those who don’t understand- because there are many, unfortunately, who will choose not to.
Remember, you’re doing your best.
You deserve to be kind to yourself.
To be continued…